When we got married, we thought we were surrounded by solid Christian marriages. Even the couples that we knew were struggling seemed absolutely committed to their marriages regardless of the difficulties. Within a year or two, only one of the local couples that we’d thought would be our support as we learned this new thing called marriage were still married. By the way, that same couple is still married. I watched long-term and short term marriages crumble– including my parents’. Thankfully, Mom and Dad reunited a few years later and have been back together ever since.
“We just drifted apart.” That was the excuse for leaving a husband for another man. It tore me up. Years went by and one after another, more marriages around town dissolved. Why?
What makes someone invest years and years of their life in a relationship– make vows even– and then discard them? I’m not pretending that it is easy for them. I’m sure, at least for some, it’s quite difficult to make that decision. But, considering it happens so often, it must not be so difficult that they don’t let it happen. When we marry, we vow– VOW– for as long as we both shall live. It seems that now people make the mental vow, “For as long as we both shall love.” Actually, I’ve heard of secular marriages using that as their vow. At least it’s doable.
Don’t get me wrong. If Kevin found himself a honey on the side and committed adultery, I can’t imagine staying married to him. I suppose if there was genuine repentance, I would try. I would want to be the wife who could do that, but I don’t know if I could be. If he started beating me, I’d be gone– our kids with me. I have no idea HOW I’d do it, but I would.
I just wonder whatever happened to “for better or worse” and “for richer or poorer.” What about, “in sickness and in health” and (since it seems to be a huge problem in our day) “forsaking all others?”
I don’t know the answer, but I do beg Christians to take heed lest they fall… I need to keep alert, watchful, and prayerful before I become the next statistic.