Name one thing you would change about your wedding and why. There is a restriction though. You can’t change the groom.
I’ve never heard anyone say that there isn’t a single solitary thing they wouldn’t change if they could. You know, spend less, spend more, spend on this and not on that… the biggest thing is photography. People really seem to wish they’d done something different in that respect. I find it all fascinating.
Looking back, I would have changed the way we set it up. I don’t know how else to explain it. We did the normal thing. Bridesmaids, groomsmen,flower girl, candlelighters, ring bearer, and an auditorium full of onlookers. Everyone just moved over to the fellowship hall and had fun there.
If I had it to do over and didn’t have the pressure from other around me to stick to their dreams for me instead of my own (Praise the Lord for a mother who didn’t care what I did as long as she didn’t have to do it for me! THANK YOU MOM!)
The wedding itself would have been for our parents and immediate siblings, grandparents etc. No extended family… just the very closest to us. Then I would have invited several godly couples and if they had young children, those children. That’s it. I would have only invited …
- An exremely close aunt or uncle (second parent like)
- People from my church who would watch and ensure that we kept our vows.
Kevin and I would have walked into the auditorium together (We were married so “giving away was ridiculous in my opinion”) vowed before these close witnessees to do what we had already vowed, and then we all would have taken the pretty pictures etc.
After all of that, we’d have partied. I’d show the “ceremony” on video tape in the reception hall for any who would like to see it but mainly, it’d be a celebration.
I’d make sure the formal part is the serious thing it should be and the celebration is done with all.
Who knows, maybe one of my children will choose to do that. HA!