I know, cliche, right? Look. I love my quiet. I’ve always been annoyed by noise. I like my children quiet (not quite seen but not heard… but quiet. Then again, my mom always said, “Children shouldn’t even be seen.” Snort.), my music quiet (no rock, PLEASE), and the voices in my head quiet. Oh wait. Forget I said that. Wouldn’t want to give away too many secrets.
There’s a magical time in our home–a time when darkness hovers in all the rooms and the gentle lullaby of a turbine engine masquerading as a fan descends upon us like a comfortable blanket. It’s my favorite time of day. Silence. No questions, no quarrels, no queridas quacking in their play. Sorry… the alliterative bug bit me. I squashed it. We should be good.
There’s a lot of talk about how moms need “time away” and “me” time and all that stuff. I say, forget it. Just give me a couple of silent hours a day and voila. I am a new woman. I guess it’s the introvert vs. extrovert thing, right?
So, while the experts tell me that I need to get out to “recharge” and “not lose myself” I know my weaknesses and strengths. I know what I need. I need quiet. So, I build it into my day. I take naps. I stay up after the rest of the family goes to bed. If I had a porch, I’d escape to it now and then. If I had a patio, same thing. I make sure I get QUIET.
Yes, it sounds selfish. You know what. I think that’s a bunch of bunk. You see, no one says, “Needing food is selfish. Making sure you get food is just selfish.” No one says, “Needing sleep is selfish. You should forgo it and stay up all night planning great experiences for your kids or scrubbing the house from top to bottom so that your life looks perfect. It’s selfish.”
Yes, if I make quiet more important than my child or my husband, then sure it’s selfish. Just like if I make eating more important than getting a kid with a severed finger to the hospital is selfish. However, it’s not selfish for me to make a kid wait while I eat my lunch before I help him color his picture or dress her doll. And it’s not selfish for me to make sure my brain gets the rest it needs.
Quiet– it does a family good.